Sometimes people should just *listen* to what others say. It's not that hard. Not everyone is going to coddle you and phrase everything in exactly the words you want to hear. Arguing that they should is ridiculous. Tho I suppose that I could just feed back to people the words and phrases they use or want or find acceptable - it will make for really boring conversations, but maybe that's the only way to get along. It's too bad that saying something politely is so often overlooked or taken as an invitation to do whatever they want anyway.