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04 November 2003 @ 09:39 pm
Question for the day  
How do you define respect? Or, what makes you respect a person? How do you think that reflects on what you want in yourself?

-the redhead-
Your Origami Brother: Grampstimwerld on November 5th, 2003 07:17 am (UTC)
Interesting question. For my part, I find that I respect people who function comfortably within the envelope of their own competence. Note that respect isn't necessarily related to authority, or likeability. Respect is, however an earned commodity.

I think we all like to believe ourselves to be worthy of respect, even when don't get it. For me, self respect is an inherent part of my own ideals of honor and integrity.
-the redhead-theredhead on November 6th, 2003 05:20 am (UTC)
Welcome to the rambling place *smile*

Yes, we all like to think ourselves worth respect. But does everyone really merit respect? I think not.

-the redhead-
Your Origami Brothertimwerld on November 6th, 2003 10:30 am (UTC)
Always nice to be welcomed *blush*

Ah! Respect does not necessarily have to be a wholesale characteristic. In other words, you can respect an attribute. i.e. She's got to be one of the most talented pianists I've ever worked with, but she's a reprehensible human being. This does not preclude respect for her musical talent, but it also does not confer upon her my respect for other aspects of her humanity.

Respect differs from admiration. Does everyone merit respect. Most definitely no.
Wolfteddywolf on November 5th, 2003 10:14 am (UTC)
I respect a person who shows a willingness to work well with others.

*smile* Lemme know if you want the long version.
-the redhead-theredhead on November 5th, 2003 11:54 am (UTC)
Yes please *smile*

-the redhead-
Wolfteddywolf on November 5th, 2003 01:56 pm (UTC)
OK. Basically, the respect I tend to give to people tends to be directly proportional to the respect that they give to others. This is not the only factor, as I also respect intelligent thought, self-knowledge, determination, friendliness and positive outlook; but the amount of respect they give is the primary determinant. Respect means you listen, you evaluate, you don't dismiss people out of hand, and show that you understand and have faith in the abilities of others.

Respect does have to be earned or frittered away, but I tend to start people at a median level and work their way up or down from there. I find that giving respect is also a means of getting it back. People who start out giving no respect are likely to find they don't get much back.

Shall I elucidate further?
dirtstar on November 5th, 2003 05:48 pm (UTC)
Respect for me is inexorably tied to trust - do I trust this person to make the right decision? Do I trust them to look out for not just their own interests but the interests of those affected by their decisions?

I do not think you can respect another person without trusting them - and I do not think people should respect me if they do not find me trustworthy.