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27 February 2004 @ 09:21 am
Called Mom to make sure she was doing okay after her 2 hour surgery yesterday. She really liked the 2 dozen roses I sent, says she is feeling fine, and (of course) was up and about. Was at the computer reading email, says she has to practice her cake recipe for the Pillsbury Bake-Off this afternoon, play with the cats, yadda. I had to remind her that she is supposed to stay *off* her foot for a few days and keep it elevated. Somehow sitting at the computer and baking a cake don't quite qualify. Will call her every couple of hours to make sure she is on the couch *resting*.

Email snafus out west may have cocked things up for the day *sigh*

Told someone today that if I was doing a *favor* for them it does not behoove them to micromanage and rant about said favor and tell me it wasn't 'good enough'. If they don't like the way I'm doing it then they can bloody well do it themselves, and I told them that. I wasn't even all apologetic about it. Just straight up. I found it amusing that they were offended at my response. 'But you aaaalways help. Why won't you do it this tiiiiime? I was relying on you.' *snort* Funny how being kind and going out of my way to offer to help someone out of a spot gets turned around into it's my responsibility and I have to do it exactly a certain way or it's not good enough. Yanno what, it's *not* my problem. I have my own stuff going on - if they can neither admit they were wrong (which is what got them into the situation in the first place) nor appreciate my assistance then I just won't bother. So now they are having an attitude about it - heh. I may be 'dependable', but not a doormat. And no, yelling about it doesn't help. Just makes them look stupid and self-centered.

Considering lunch, tho there may not be time today.

-the redhead-
Zannadragonpurr on February 27th, 2004 09:07 am (UTC)
You need to eat, at least something.....
Your Origami Brother: Grampstimwerld on February 27th, 2004 11:42 am (UTC)
There's that funny little thing called human nature.....and entitlement. If you offer to do something for someone for nothing, then that's what it's worth to them.
-the redhead-theredhead on February 29th, 2004 01:20 pm (UTC)
Many people seem to have mislaid social graces and it end up being all about them. When did this become what 'human nature' is?

-the redhead-
Your Origami Brothertimwerld on March 1st, 2004 09:34 am (UTC)
You won't find much of an argument here that our manners and our expression of gratitude aren't what they once were in this society. However, we haven't invented narcissism, just popularised it.

Human nature has a broad range, some of it isn't flattering, but it exists nonetheless.
Kitty: dancing kittykittykat1978 on February 27th, 2004 03:40 pm (UTC)
Heya.. this is kittykat from PMM, I added you to my friends list...

I wish I had some advice for you about your entry. I have had friends that were similar that expected me to do them favors all the time and when I dd they were often not appreciated.
-the redhead-theredhead on February 29th, 2004 01:22 pm (UTC)
So what is there to do about it? Granted, there was some satisfaction in telling them to sod off, but how to deal with the snarky attitude that comes after because they do have that sense of entitlement?

-the redhead-