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29 February 2004 @ 12:47 am
Question for the day  
How do you *know* your partner loves you?

-the redhead-
-the redhead-theredhead on February 29th, 2004 01:07 pm (UTC)
What sort of actions?

-the redhead-
Wolfteddywolf on March 1st, 2004 07:35 am (UTC)
Loving actions speak to me - things like a kiss, a caress, a grin, a longing gaze; and even some actions you might not think of at first, like discussing an argument point in a calm way. Actions that show respect, consideration, affection, and, yes, love.

Actions that show that somebody does not love me include being ignored, walked over, treated rudely, treated as an object. This includes declarations by fiat, never giving any apologies when I really do deserve one from being walked all over, being walked all over, shouted at, being ignored... basically, actions that show disrespect, a lack of consideration, disaffection and, well, a lack of caring.

Stuff from the second list can happen even in the best of relationships; but the key points are, is this common? is it deliberate? are there sincere apologies when a mistake is made, which does include an effort to prevent the same mistake from happening again? Good answers are No, No, and Yes, in that order; and if any of those answers are flipflopped it's a good idea to re-evaluate the relationship and talk with your sweetie.

This is pretty much what Tigerbright and I do. We have some bumps on the road, but I am happy with her and last I knew she is happy with me.