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29 February 2004 @ 12:47 am
Question for the day  
How do you *know* your partner loves you?

-the redhead-
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Musings from the CZ unitcz_unit on February 29th, 2004 04:03 pm (UTC)
A feeling in one's belly often has little to do with what someone else thinks or feels. That feeling can lie big time.

Mmm... In both flying and Autocross, I have noticed that the little feeling in the belly (subconcious) is an excellent indication that things are about to "go bad"(tm). It's the internal and very subtle way we evaluate what's going on. Been there since the good ole days of being eaten by cheetah; very good indicator.

Not the same as the polyana "Oh everything's going to be great" feeling that you get when you're happily going into a cloud...

All things that people do for people who are just friends as well. Or even the people at work. At least I do. So what's the difference?

Depends on the person. If they do these sorts of things for everyone, then either they love everyone (cool) or that's just their baseline. I'd stop for people in the rain to change tires, and I have stopped for people to fix their cars (including getting parts). Doesn't mean that I love them.

But (for example) I don't order dinner for anyone. I don't look for jewelry for anyone. Note carefully that this is different for different people.

So what's the bar? What's the diffference from just being a nice human being?

It's subjective. If one could find a specific definition of "love" then that person would be ahead of approximately 2,000 years of poets, painters, and lunatics.

What is *your* definition of love?

CZ
-the redhead-theredhead on February 29th, 2004 04:37 pm (UTC)
Not the same as the polyana "Oh everything's going to be great" feeling that you get when you're happily going into a cloud...

ah, not the same as being smooshy. Yes, the warning feeling is something to be listened to. Mine is very strong maybe I should listen to it more - it would probably prevent problems. Would also cut down on the number of people I deal with - also safer.

What is *your* definition of love?

I don't have one anymore.

-the redhead-