Recently I put some effort into sending someone a sort of spur of the moment gift. It’s not someone I know well, but I am making the effort. I was a bit worried that they wouldn’t like it or that I was trying too hard. But I sent it off anyway.
And then waited.
Took them 2 weeks before they sent a brief little email saying they had enjoyed the gift. Now, I don’t know how other people were raised, but I always at the very least leave someone a brief message of thanks within a day or two in the instance that I cannot reach them to thank them personally within that time frame.
It seems to me that this person is fairly dismissive of my efforts and I am, indeed, trying too hard (which may be placing them in the uncomfortable position of having to acknowledge my 'pestering' and trying to get to know them). I see little reason to continue along these lines after my place in the grand scheme of things has been so clearly illustrated. Perhaps it would be better to leave the ball in their court, to make an effort if they wish to.
Now I have to figure out what to say to them about my feelings in this matter, and how to say it. – bleh.