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15 October 2004 @ 01:25 pm
So much for trying to be completely analytical, unemotional and dispassionate - it doesn't seem to be working any better than expressing what I really feel.

So, in addition to having a odd conversation that seems to be weirdly spinning out of control with someone I thought was at least kind of a friend, now I think my sweety is going to call me tonight to break up with me.

What the *hell* did I do to deserve all of this crap today?!?

-the redhead-
Bill the bold bosthoonwcg on October 15th, 2004 12:40 pm (UTC)
Yikes! I doubt you did anything to deserve it.

I hope things don't go as badly as you fear they will.
GypsyJackgypsyjack on October 15th, 2004 01:42 pm (UTC)

I suspect that you're not getting that much more than the average person, it's just that you are more aware of what "should" be, so the suck quotient is higher for you....
Hopefully the phone breakup won't happen, but I don't have much respect for a breakup by phone

need a hug???
-the redhead-theredhead on October 15th, 2004 01:46 pm (UTC)
what do you mean 'more aware of what 'should' happen?

-the redhead-
GypsyJackgypsyjack on October 15th, 2004 02:08 pm (UTC)
With regards to the "spinning" conversation...

I have found that most people, truly do not fully participate in a converstation, but rather just state their side repeatedly, without attempting to understand the other parties input. You on the other hand, have always seemed to me to do a better than average job at attempting to understand, and in most cases succeeding. Thus my statement about your awareness of "what should happen" (in a conversation).

I suppose you could extend the "what should happen" to the relationship situation, tho that wasn't my intent.

I guess it really is about manners. All to often in our busy society, people act like they feel they do not have the time to treat each other with respect. We (as a society) seem to justify that with "I'm just to busy to really pay attention to you, so as long as *my* life is not impacted negatively, I just don't have the energy to give you any respect". Such as actually hearing and understaning the other side of a conversation. Or making the time and effort to be physically present when discussing a negative change to a relationships. (i've been fired over the phone, not nice)

Of course, this assumes that the sweetie mentioned is less then flying distance away.

hope this clarifies some.

Skittenskitten on October 16th, 2004 07:25 am (UTC)
Yeah- getting fired over the phone definately sucks....
I ALSO find it direspectful to break up with someone over the phone...
you should at LEAST give them a nice dinner first in deference to the positive aspects of the relationship...