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08 February 2005 @ 12:53 pm
The original question was

At what point in a relationship/connection do you feel comfortable being emotionally vulnerable with a lover or partner?

My question is why should I ever make my self 'vulnerable' to another person? What's the benefit?

There’s been a bit of chat on the subject, mostly having to do with trust, acceptance, and ‘letting people in’.

One person commented ‘I feel that any relationship, be it friendship or lover, at some point we become emotionally vulnerable to each other, or the relationship stays superficial.

I'm still missing the entailment between 'vulnerable' and 'emotional closeness' or 'love' or 'caring'. I don't believe that not making oneself vulnerable means that a relationship is superficial.

-the redhead-
-the redhead-theredhead on February 17th, 2005 11:02 pm (UTC)
and in transfering their own emotion set to you they conclude that you must be lacking in deep emotion?

Could be *nod* Seem presumptuous to me - just because I choose not to bare my soul doesn't mean I'm shallow or lacking in deep emotion. Maybe it just means I'm smarter than the average bear.

I've noticed a very strong correlation between constant 'oversharing' and the inability to be responsible for and take care of one's self. Those who share everything at the drop of a hat seem to be those who always need help in some way or another.

-the redhead-
Bill the bold bosthoonwcg on February 17th, 2005 11:44 pm (UTC)
Ah yes, people with boundary problems. As you note, they often have a hard time distinguishing between what's theirs and what's yours.
-the redhead-theredhead on February 17th, 2005 11:49 pm (UTC)

True, as well.

-the redhead-