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06 March 2003 @ 10:51 pm
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Are 'how big are your breasts?' and 'how big is your cock?' contextually the same question?

Are the normal answers given comparable? Why is a rather specific answer expected for the former, but not the latter?

Time for a little social mores research.

-the redhead-

"It is the mark of an educated man to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." –Aristotle
 
 
 
dirtstar on March 6th, 2003 11:03 pm (UTC)
Asking how "big" they are implies that bigger is better - the American dream.
= Faith = Trust =: mandelbitamberfox on March 7th, 2003 06:38 am (UTC)
I would say they're not even close, except maybe online. After all, RL, people can get a pretty good guess at breast size without asking.
Musings from the CZ unitcz_unit on March 7th, 2003 06:39 am (UTC)
Well, first off underwear is typically not sized for penises (peni?) while bras are a typical approximation.

But if detailed measurments are asked for there is no problem with procuring either a soft fabric tape (for women) or a yardstick (for men)

CZ
Non calor sed umor est qui nobis incommodat.melanie on March 7th, 2003 07:15 am (UTC)
well, actually, should exact measurements be asked for i'd say the whole issue of measuring would suddenly become a non-issue.

i must say i've never thought about this, though. it never would have occurred to me to entertain either question.
Musings from the CZ unitcz_unit on March 7th, 2003 07:20 am (UTC)
I'm curious because I have heard that many men seem to like to send pictures of their peni. If this is the case, do they send a ruler or other item to give it "scale"?

Seriously curious.
CZ
Non calor sed umor est qui nobis incommodat.melanie on March 7th, 2003 07:24 am (UTC)
yikes. i lead a sheltered life, it seems. someone sending me a penis pic, with or without a gauge, would probably offend me quite a lot.
-the redhead-theredhead on March 7th, 2003 07:30 am (UTC)
Some of them do include a 'scale' of some sort.

And no, I don't find it terribly exciting or amusing to receive such.

-the redhead-
Paladinpaladin3 on March 7th, 2003 10:13 am (UTC)
um. eww.

p3
-the redhead-theredhead on March 7th, 2003 10:20 am (UTC)
*laugh*

I can *hear* you saying it in my head *grin*

Sometime we'll have to talk so I can see how close my internal monologue was to reality.

-the redhead-
Paladinpaladin3 on March 8th, 2003 01:08 am (UTC)
Well, you were on the speyshul list that could see the post with my phone number. :-)

Or you can send me yours. LD is free in The Neighborhood after all.

:-)

p3
Musings from the CZ unitcz_unit on March 7th, 2003 11:19 am (UTC)
I can see that, but the underlying assumption is that they must work for *some* percentage of people.

That concerns me....

:-)
CZ
Non calor sed umor est qui nobis incommodat.melanie on March 7th, 2003 11:22 am (UTC)
hmmm. who was it I was talking to the other day, who said that he actually had middling success with exceedingly crude pickup lines? can't remember. (shows how much of an impression he made on me, but anyway) he was saying that about 1 in 3 would go home with him, even if he was rude enough to just walk up to them and say something like "if i get you drunk, will you go home with me?"

scary.
Liquid Tension Movementperspicuity on March 7th, 2003 08:30 am (UTC)
hey, if a guy had peni, well, i'd want to know how many,
forget the size ;) the picture might even get framed!

wow. tentacles.

Ko'Shall Viperkoshall on March 7th, 2003 03:01 pm (UTC)

ROFL

Ok, I've waited long enough, you amuse the hell out of me... *adds you to friends*
Liquid Tension Movementperspicuity on March 7th, 2003 03:24 pm (UTC)
do i now? hmmmm :)

urotsukidoji anyone?

cthulhu? why vote for the lesser of two evils (burp, the
other evil was delicious and tart on my tongue)

-the redhead-theredhead on March 7th, 2003 07:27 am (UTC)
Well, I was asked last evening and it got me thinking. My immediate response, which made it past all the safety filters (damnit!), was a serious eyebrow and 'Got a ruler?'.

So, why are these two things viewed / responded to differently? Why should it matter anyways?

Which brings up something else to think about - I get more than annoyed by living forever in the big sister/little sister/friend only box, but on the other hand I also get annoyed by being classed as nothing more than a 'fun playtoy' based on superficial characteristics.

Yeah, I'm totally screwed. Or not, actually.

*snort*

-the redhead-

...needs to ditch either the brains or 'the girls'...
Liquid Tension Movementperspicuity on March 7th, 2003 08:37 am (UTC)
hmmmm. interesting. i've been wondering how, or at all
to answer the question. i've never been asked, and i've
never asked. if asked, my answer would probably be rather
sarcastic, and if i asked, i can't imagine not getting such
an answer. the only context i *might* ask if i were buying
or making clothes for someone, and needed fitting information.

silly people.

hmmm. sample answers for fun...

"bigger than you [r ego] can handle"
"if you need to ask, you don't need to know"
"if you can't tell now, what good are you?"
"did you want that in meters per second or volume?"
"metric or english?"
"why, i never!"
"ask your mom/dad!"
"you didn't just ask me that, you better not have"
"keeel! jumping up and down on the desk keel! KEEL!"

uhm. sorry :>
-the redhead-theredhead on March 7th, 2003 09:21 am (UTC)
well, actually, should exact measurements be asked for i'd say the whole issue of measuring would suddenly become a non-issue.

Based on one implication of 'suddenly become a non-issue', yes - it never was an issue of the details.

Based on another implication, unfortunately for me, no.

-the redhead-
Non calor sed umor est qui nobis incommodat.melanie on March 7th, 2003 09:26 am (UTC)
eh, well. sometimes, the delicacies gleaned from blowfish.com are much nicer than the real thing attached to an annoying person.
Paladinpaladin3 on March 7th, 2003 10:11 am (UTC)
mebbe...I don't think they're completely analagous but rather one is a retort for a irritating and rude inquiry from the male of the species methinks...plus women likely don't have a "depth" measurement to compare...so maybe they're probably the most common measured sexual attributes...

Personally, I don't have to have a measurement to buy pants...but there are certain items of attire that likely require you to know the size of your top. Plus it's a sign of self-indulgent silliness for a man to measure...

Of course, I think both questions are quite rude except perhaps in an intimate relationship...

Just my old fogey 2 cents.

p3
Petertextivore on March 7th, 2003 03:18 pm (UTC)
The latter doesn't require a specific answer? Oh. I didn't need to hunt for that ruler after all . . .
Seriously, I suspect it's partly a matter of how women tend to be more socially defined by their bodies. An appauling tendency, of course. Perhaps people also know men well enough to assume they'd lie about specific measurements anyhow . . .
Sylver Wolfsylverwolf on March 7th, 2003 04:31 pm (UTC)
things that make you say hmmmm
Are 'how big are your breasts?' and 'how big is your cock?' contextually the same question?

Well, I'd say no, cuz breast size, except when wearing baggy clothing, is rather visible, whereas only when wearing specific clothing is cock size viewable. But as for the questions themselves, contextually, I think I agree, that if the question is asked, the person doesn't usually deserve the answer.

Are the normal answers given comparable? Why is a rather specific answer expected for the former, but not the latter?

The answers aren't really comparable, as they have totally different fuctions. And as mentioned before, breast size is usually visable, so expecting an answer is Slightly ::rolls eyes:: more acceptable.

and just an agreement on the first comment in this set... bigger is better... the American dream as we, ladies all know, this is SO another example of how silly the "American Dream" is..

-the redhead-theredhead on March 7th, 2003 05:15 pm (UTC)
Re: things that make you say hmmmm
Hey! Long time no talk to.

Welcome to the rambling place *smile*

and just an agreement on the first comment in this set... bigger is better... the American dream as we, ladies all know, this is SO another example of how silly the "American Dream" is.

*nod*

-the redhead-
Sylver Wolfsylverwolf on March 7th, 2003 05:35 pm (UTC)
Re: things that make you say hmmmm
::points you to your TB PMs:: Of course, I'm going on vacation this weekend, but still... for future reference...

Paladin: Doofus 1993paladin3 on March 8th, 2003 01:10 am (UTC)
Hey! You never did mention how big your cock is! Is he bigger than your chicken?

:-)

p3