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20 May 2003 @ 02:30 am
Take what you can get  
The debate is just having sex with people versus having relationships with them.

More to follow

-the redhead-
Never: Poof!neverireven on May 20th, 2003 03:57 am (UTC)
Um, why not both? There are so many multitudes of possible relationship flavors, and each of them has something unique and worthwhile to offer so long as they're done responsibly and well. Why constrain that? Every dyad or group of people has a dynamic of interaction that works best among that set of people, and that's going to be different among every set of people you belong to. At least, in my personal experience. YMMV.
-the redhead-theredhead on May 20th, 2003 07:11 am (UTC)
So, this is one of the reasons I'm discussing this with myself.

There's a lot wrapped up in this debate for me - being raised a good little Catholic girl, not having the 'sex only' skillset (I was one of the geeky, ugly kids. I do think it's something that people have to learn), self worth, what do I need, what do I want, cost benefit analysis, what would I gain from such an action, attitudes, who do I want and why, yadda. I've never been good a being a toy, and I found that it hurt and disappointed me to find that I've become a bet to some people lately. On the other hand, I could have had my pick the other weekend - that's a new thing.

-the redhead-
-the redhead-theredhead on May 20th, 2003 07:46 am (UTC)
Another important question is 'who am I?'

-the redhead-
Non calor sed umor est qui nobis incommodat.melanie on May 20th, 2003 07:58 am (UTC)
thus far in this lifetime, i've never been interested in "sex only". i have a whole toychest full of stuff to play with if all i want is to get off. if another human being is involved, i want MORE than that.

not that there's anything wrong with it. i just happen to know that i don't tend to ever be happy that way for long. i've tried. it was like having plain tapioca when i really wanted dark chocolate raspberry mousse.