-the redhead- (theredhead) wrote,
-the redhead-

Interview me, IV

If you want me to interview you--post a comment that simply says, "Interview me." I'll respond with questions (4-6) for you to take back to your own journal and answer as a post. Of course, they'll be different for each person since this is an interview and not a general survey. At the bottom of your post, after answering the Interviewer's questions, you ask if anyone wants to be interviewed. So it becomes your turn-- in the comments, you ask them any questions you have for them to take back to their journals and answer. And so it becomes the circle.

Here are my answers to sylverwolf's questions:

1. You often post photo challenges in your LJ. What images do you enjoy capturing the most?

A variety of things, really. It depends upon the opportunities that present themselves and what strikes me at the moment. Sometimes it's odd things, sometimes it's more documentation – like pictures that I take at SCA events. I used to be a fairly good portrait taker, but that's not as realistic to do with my little digital camera. Maybe I should get my hardware out again – it would fit with the thought that I might take a photography class at CU this summer or fall. I continue in my quest to take the perfect picture of the Flatirons for every season.

2. What movie would you say, best describes your life, your way of living?

Oooh – that's a tough one. These days perhaps it is 'A Year of Living Dangerously'. *smile* Perhaps not completely appropriate, but there have been struggles and some dangerous times and lots of deep thought. A *fabulous* movie at any rate – I highly recommend it.

3. You obviously enjoy the SCA. Do you think you would have liked to live during some part of the Middle Ages or Renaissance? If so, which part and where?

The Middle Ages - yes and no. I think (know!) I would have made a wonderful early period Irish scribe. The thought of the simplicity appeals as well – sometimes I think we just have too much going on it today's society. It's too busy, too fast paced, too overwhelming. But I could certainly do without the disease, starvation, subsistence living, and the concept of women as chattel.

The Renaissance – yes! It was an age of wondrous learning and scientific advancement. An age of reason, of discovery, of intellectualism, of art, of literature. To have been a prosperous woman in Italy during the Renaissance would have been very enlightening. I would have wanted to study art, literature, and philosophy.

4. What teacher, in all your life, had the most lasting effect upon you? How?

My old show jumper Guv. Strange thing to pick a horse, I know. But true. In those years we spent together I internalized a lot of life lessons that I already 'knew' in my head. I was very good at what I did and could be successful. I should have confidence in myself, I could help other people. Responsibility – I had always been a responsible child, but it was the difference between just being responsible for myself and *really* being responsible for another. I could adapt and work intimately, in concert, with another. And that I was important, someone looked forward to seeing me every day. Not to judge a book by it's cover. He surely wasn't the prettiest of hunters out there, but he was very talented and we made a great team. That me being a tiny slip of a thing shouldn’t be a barrier to accomplishing what I wanted. We made an odd pair – I was still of a size that I should still have been riding ponies, but there I was, all 4' 10"' and 70 lbs of me, on my 16.2 jumper. He taught me not to fear, and always be willing to tackle the bigger obstacles.

5. What does polyamory mean to you, personally?

In a single word – Respect.

Of course that single word encompasses at least a couple of hours of explanation and discussion *grin* But I think that respect for others and respect for yourself is the basic tenant. Without that, it's just not going to work at all.

Certainly there is more to what poly means to me. That caring for one person is not diminished by caring for another. More room in my life for people, not less. The ability to express more than one side of myself.

What does poly require other than respect? A bit of empathy, the ability to communicate well, to be a giver instead of a taker, the ability to see and really understand other people's points of view, time management skills, commitment, and all of the other things that go into day-to-day relationships.

I'm sure I will think of other things as I go along in this new space I have found myself in...

-the redhead-
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