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06 July 2003 @ 07:58 pm
Creepy Weirdness, part 2  
Whatever happened to basic politeness?? Socially acceptable behavior?

Wow - I've discovered that in this digital day and age basic politeness has gone *completely* out the the window. Apparently it's normal operating procedure to hunt people down and gather as much information as possible based on a mere interest. To spend hours doing this sort of thing. To follow not a single link that might indicate a bit of intrigue, but to follow dozens, amassing as much data as possible. After exchanging on the order of 15 words with the person in question.

Even scarier is that it seems a bunch of people see no problem with this approach...


Perhaps I was raised in a more genteel and enlightened manner. This isn't how it works in my world.

(see comments for thread (and replies) started by the person who behaved in this manner)

-the redhead-
...thinking the full background check idea might be acceptable after all...
-the redhead-theredhead on July 6th, 2003 07:02 pm (UTC)
To tell or not to tell
Saturday July 5, 2003
10:42:42 AM PDT


I find a profile that I really really like. It has an interesting profile name.

I decide to see if she's used the name for other profiles or personal websites on the Net and do a Google search for that nickname.

I come up with more than I bargained for. I come up with a real name... first and last. I find an address, telephone number, career info, regular e-mail address, hobbies and interests, and a folder full of photos (all G rated). All this in less than an hour's time, with nothing more than an Internet search engine.

So what am I to do? I have no sinister intentions, so I know that it's safe for *me* to have this info. But I also know that people need to be careful about their personal info and identities on the Net. There *are* people with sinister intentions out there.

Also, I feel guilty now that I know so much about her, without her knowing an equal amount about me.

So what DID I do? I e-mailed her through PMM and let her know what I know, in as friendly and benign a way as possible; apologized for my curiosity that led to my learning it; and, to be fair, gave her as much personal info about me as I have about her, to make us as vulnerable as she is likely to feel.

Did I do the right thing?

IN LOCO PARENTISlibidoergosum on July 6th, 2003 09:00 pm (UTC)
Re: To tell or not to tell
that was an extremely courageous thing to do. Whether or not it was the right thing to do, I'd have to leave it up to you. Then again, I also try to be a little more cautious as I still have an Ex-wife out there who may want to do me harm.

none the less, kudos to you for standing up for your convictions.