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06 July 2003 @ 07:58 pm
Creepy Weirdness, part 2  
Whatever happened to basic politeness?? Socially acceptable behavior?

Wow - I've discovered that in this digital day and age basic politeness has gone *completely* out the the window. Apparently it's normal operating procedure to hunt people down and gather as much information as possible based on a mere interest. To spend hours doing this sort of thing. To follow not a single link that might indicate a bit of intrigue, but to follow dozens, amassing as much data as possible. After exchanging on the order of 15 words with the person in question.

Even scarier is that it seems a bunch of people see no problem with this approach...


Perhaps I was raised in a more genteel and enlightened manner. This isn't how it works in my world.

(see comments for thread (and replies) started by the person who behaved in this manner)

-the redhead-
...thinking the full background check idea might be acceptable after all...
-the redhead-theredhead on July 6th, 2003 07:16 pm (UTC)
Saturday July 5, 2003
4:15:36 PM PDT

S**, other than giving information about yourself in return, I think you did a good thing!

I understand you were trying to express your good intentions, but you could have done that without exposing yourself to vulnerabilities.

My now ex husband did a search on me early on in our online chatting time. He immediately told me what he had found (which included the map to my house!) and also told me how to get the information removed from the various search engines. At first, I spooked a bit, but quickly realized that if he had bad intentions, he surely wouldn't have told me about the information.
(He actually asked if he could keep my phone number and when I told him no, he deleted it!)

Thanks for the timely reminder though, I haven't done a search on me in a long time and probably need to. I've lost the addy to the site to request removal from various databases, I'll email hubster and see if he still has it.