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06 July 2003 @ 07:58 pm
Creepy Weirdness, part 2  
Whatever happened to basic politeness?? Socially acceptable behavior?

Wow - I've discovered that in this digital day and age basic politeness has gone *completely* out the the window. Apparently it's normal operating procedure to hunt people down and gather as much information as possible based on a mere interest. To spend hours doing this sort of thing. To follow not a single link that might indicate a bit of intrigue, but to follow dozens, amassing as much data as possible. After exchanging on the order of 15 words with the person in question.

Even scarier is that it seems a bunch of people see no problem with this approach...


Perhaps I was raised in a more genteel and enlightened manner. This isn't how it works in my world.

(see comments for thread (and replies) started by the person who behaved in this manner)

-the redhead-
...thinking the full background check idea might be acceptable after all...
-the redhead-theredhead on July 6th, 2003 07:24 pm (UTC)
Sunday July 6, 2003
6:12:37 PM PDT

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Dear The RedHead:

Civilized people do not go searching for various information on others because they have the money and are bored...well, maybe some do, but for the most part, they do it out of safety.

My wife and I met on the Internet...love at first byte if you will, and were very attracted to each other from the onset. The proverbial ball was rolling downhill very fast, and we each in our own way had a LOT to lose if the other was not who they presented themselves to be.

So, fast forward a few months, we are engaged to be married, and one night my wife to be looks at me and starts tearing up saying she had a confession to make. She'd had me investigated to make sure I was who and what I was presenting to her...once burned twice shy if you will. I laughed and looked her right in the eye and said Sweety, so what, I had you investigated as well, it was the safe thing to do.

Like it or not, the old adage does stil hold true, in that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Now, as far as the situation with Sei...I've known Sei around the site since almost my first hours here when I bumped into him in the chat room here. He is bright, articulate, always willing to give (usually good) advice to those in need, and I feel his attentions are always in the right place.

Problem is, sometimes life is all about perceptions, and in this case, I think his honest intentions to some might look suspect, though they are not. Also, think there is a bit of the shoot the messenger mentality involved as well in that he perhaps showed her just how vulnerable her personal information is online, and so it is perhaps natural for her to FREAK OUT, and also perhaps natural for her to freak out at him as the one that exposed it to her.