Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience.
If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.--Thich Nhat Hahn
Once we realize that imperfect understanding is the human condition there is no shame in being wrong, only in failing to correct our mistakes.--George Soros
The reality of the other person is not in what he reveals to you, but in what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says but rather what he does not say.--Kahlil Gibran